Are You Sure the Kids Are Invited?

We all know screaming kids are not welcome news at weddings, particularly during the vows or the groom’s heartfelt speech. But with a little thought and careful planning, both you and your little guests can enjoy the big day without shedding unwanted tears. Here are my golden rules for organising a successful kid-friendly wedding:

1: Be realistic

If you decide to invite children to your wedding, you’ll need to accept there'll inevitably be a few noisy interruptions and some little people running around during the proceedings. If this will cause you to smile not frown on your special day then read on.

2: Plan ahead

It’s crucial to write a list of all the children you’re inviting, and to find out the number of kids and their ages. This will help you to plan age-appropriate activities, food and any other necessary resources such as high chairs. If you’re unsure about anything, talk to the kids’ parents. They’ll happily tell you all you need to know.

3: Consider venues 

Assess whether your potential venues are suitable for young guests. Ask staff about  access to toilets, baby-changing or crèche facilities. Will the children have space to let off steam during the reception? Are there safe outdoor play areas? As a very rough guide a child can sit attentively for three minutes plus their age so, at some point, they'll need to get up and move. Although it's a lovely idea, a quirky cave venue may not seem as great when you've got 20 or so under eights running around in the dark, over jagged rocks. Our reception venue had oodles of space, indoors and out, so it was perfect for the 25 youngsters we'd invited.

Especially at the start of the wedding ceremony, make sure your ushers tell parents about the location of toilets etc so they can have quick and easy access. (Note: some families may choose to sit at the back of the venue with their kids, to avoid disturbances. Let them as they probably know best!)

4: Remember the three Fs

Most importantly, remember that most children love the three Fs: food, fun and fascination. Stick to this mantra as much as you can, and you won’t go wrong! 

In future blogs, I'll give you some tried and tested practical ideas for the three Fs which won't break the bank!